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The Three F principles to Make Friends From
Abroad!
Good afternoon, everyone. Are you interested
in making friends with people from abroad?
My father has taken me to the United States,
Korea and China. He also introduced me to
some foreign people. Some friendship ended
short, some lasted quite long. Through these
experiences, I learned that there are three
important rules to follow when making friends
with foreign people. Let me explain my three
F principles: 1) be friendly, 2) be frank,
and 3) be faithful.
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No.1: Be Friendly! One of the easiest ways
to be friendly to foreign people is to speak
in their own language. Antonia Hushbeck is
a German student at our Fukuoka Futaba High
School. Although she knew some Japanese words,
she must have been quite uncomfortable when
she first came to our school. I greeted her,
"Hi, welcome to Japan, Antonia!"
Some of my friends and I started learning
German from her in exchange for teaching
her daily Japanese expressions, and we started
to communicate with each other in her simple
Japanese and in our broken English with some
flavor of German.
We can be good friends when we let the person
feel we think he or she is important to us.
Speaking to the person in his or her mother
tongue helps a lot. Why don't we study Korean,
German or other languages? We need not have
a good command of those languages, but knowing
some short greetings in several languages
increases our chances of friend-making.
No.2: Be Frank! Misunderstandings result
from not being frank. Many Japanese people
are so modest that we are likely to think
that we should not say anything we think
unfavorable about foreign people, even if
it is what we really think in our minds.
But unfortunately this over-consideration
may cause a large misunderstanding later.
Lan Hongyan is a Chinese student studying
communication at Seinan Gakuin University.
She loves the greenery, food, and weather
in Fukuoka. She loves Japanese politeness,
but she often complains about Japanese Tatemae
and Honne, or diplomatic greetings and true
feelings. Sometimes people will say to her:
"Cherry blossoms at Maizuru Park are
beautiful. Let's go there next time!"
or "Please come to my house next time!"
But the next time never comes. So she asks,
"When can I visit your house?"
"Oh,,,This Saturday is out, and next
Wednesdayc.I will check my schedule and
call you later." In order to avoid this,
it is much safer for Japanese people to learn
to be frank, learn to say Yes or No in front
of foreign people.
No.3 Be Faithful! Although we have few chances
of meeting foreign people in person, we can
meet a lot of people on the Internet. Alice
Crisan is a college student studying English
in Romania. Although I don't write long letters
to her, I write to her at least once a month.
I learned that to keep regular contact by
sending a birthday card or Christmas card
makes a fragile relationship beyond national
borders firm and lasting.
So, next time when you meet a foreign person,
please remember the 3F principles---Friendly,
Frank, and Faithful. You'll have a better
chance of avoiding those unnecessary misunderstandings,
and you'll be on your way to developing a
new and exciting friendship with people from
abroad
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