Seinan Gakuin University: Economics in 1993
The best way to make yourself liked and to make friends is to like people enough to become interested in what interests them, and to be outgoing and friendly. Don't overlook this rule! The truly interested and outgoing person is very rare. Most of us go through life mentally wrapped in the cotton wool of our own affairs. We go about thinking of what we are going to do, what we hope or fear is going to happen to us, instead of thinking or caring about what happens to those about us.
Sensitive awareness of the reactions of others is a priceless gift. There are far too many of us who never note the effect that our unthinking speech or behavior is quite plainly having upon the feelings of others. If you would be liked by those with whom you come in contact, you should cultivate sensitiveness of perception. This does not mean, of course, that you should become oversensitive. Our sensitiveness must have for its object the understanding of the points of view and feelings of others. To let this sensitiveness center about ourselves is to make us easily offended or hurt. We develop a sense of inferiority when our vision becomes focused inward. If we have this tendency we should remember that most people intend no offense to us, and usually are not thinking about us at all; and those who are have only kind intentions, unless we have made ourselves disagreeable.
Although many people think that those who are intelligent are usually unpopular, this is not necessarily the case. But there are special difficulties that the very clever encounter in making friends. The very clever girl, for example, may make an average young man feel inferior, while an equally clever man may resent her rivalry. Her friends, therefore, are likely to be limited to the few who are more clever than she.
The real handicap of a man who is clever is the likelihood of his seeming conceited. It is of course just as unfortunate to seem as to be. This is often the cause of the unpopularity of the shy, whose self-consciousness may well be misinterpreted as self-satisfaction. If only the shy might be touched with a little real conceit! But those of us who do not have the problem of shyness should avoid any hint of conceit in our behavior toward others.
本文の内容と合致するものを３つ選びなさい。
イIn order to make friends with others, you should like them enough to share their interests.
ロYou can hardly find a person who is both
interesting and friendly.
ハOne tends to think about oneself more than
about other people.
ニWhen you feel yourself less important than
others, you should remember that they will
take advantage of you.
ホIf you want to be liked by others, you
should have a sense of superiority.
ヘVery clever girls usually think that average
boys are inferior to themselves.
トClever people are unpopular mainly because
they are shy.
チDon't be clever and shy. It is the best
way to become popular.
リTo be popular, you should not be exceedingly
proud of yourself.
|
